Throughout the year we asked the psychotherapist Olga Miloradova about how to perceive different life situations correctly, why they arise and how to cope with them. Today we publish a series of her tips on the ever-topical topic of "relationship with a partner." We hope they will help many to sort out their feelings, not break the woods and more maturely and calmly experience the difficulties from which no one is immune.
What to do if you find out about your partner's cheating
Learn about this in different ways. Someone notices changes in behavior, someone intuitively feels that “something is wrong”, others remain in a world of illusions to the last, until suddenly someone “sympathetic” tells everything directly. But what if the evidence of treason is in your hands and is not in doubt? Now what to do with this information and what to do with the relationship further?
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Can an open relationship be useful?
Even on Facebook in the column "Marital status" there is an item "in an open relationship" - it is not uncommon for partners to believe that they are together, but allow each other to have sex on the side. Is this relationship model viable? How long can she last before jealousy and resentment begin? Or, on the contrary, can she solve the problems of loving couples who are missing something with each other?
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How to handle
with jealousy
We are all jealous. A loved one - to "just an acquaintance" or even to work that consumes most of his time. Parents - to brothers and sisters, and even to a neighbor's daughter, whom they regularly set as an example. A friend - to her cheerful friend. Quarrels based on jealousy can ruin any relationship, but it is very difficult to cope with it. Should it be suppressed? Where does the habit of being jealous come from in us, and how do we learn to control such emotions?
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How to relax
during sex
When it comes to sex, our self-confidence sometimes disappears somewhere: it's impossible to say, to make it even worse, and thoughts “how I look” and “does he like” obsessively creep into my head. As a result, it is very difficult to relax, the pleasure from sex turns out to be blurred or completely absent, and admitting that you are tense also does not work. Many people prefer to pretend that everything is okay, so as not to get upset once again and not to scare off the partner. How to start changing the situation?
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Why we are attracted to bad guys
The image of a "dangerous" or sometimes even cruel man seems very attractive - it is worth remembering how this summer women all over the world went crazy over the American handsome criminal Jeremy Meeks. But why did not his bad reputation scare away the fans, but, on the contrary, made them even more attractive? Why are we generally fascinated by bad guys, all of whom are screaming "wait for trouble"?
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Is it possible to change a man
Every girl at least once in her life dreamed of completely eliminating certain traits from her partner and replacing them with others, external or internal. To have a nose like an eagle and speak of firmness, to be strong and caring at the same time, to peacefully endure PMS and stop loving football. Well, or at least just to stop throwing socks all over the apartment. Is it possible to change a man and should it be done?
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Why are we afraid of new things in sex?
In the 21st century, we have finally come to a consensus that a rich sexual experience is not a vice or dignity, but simply everyone's personal business. But, speaking of sex, even seemingly liberated and educated people sometimes begin to crumple and bellow, or, conversely, use some blatant Russian-language terms. It's not just vocabulary - trying new things about sex is even harder for most than talking about it. Why is this happening and what to do about it?
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How to get out of a relationship where you are bullied
The problem of domestic violence is one of the most painful and acute. It seems to us that he is not nearby - after all, as it is believed, in good families or couples, a man will never raise his hand against a woman. Society is used to looking for reasons in the victim, and when we ourselves find ourselves in a situation of domestic violence, we are bound by a feeling of helplessness and hopelessness. What if you find yourself hostage to a similar situation?
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How to understand when it's time to end a relationship
Time heals many problems, but it often turns perfectly beautiful feelings into a monotonous routine. To a certain extent, this is normal - it is impossible to constantly maintain a sense of joy and novelty and experience infinite happiness. But how do you know if your relationship is undergoing a temporary decline or your feelings have cooled down forever? How to understand that it's time to end the relationship if nothing terrible, it would seem, happened, but something gnaws at you from the inside and makes you feel doubts?
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How to get over a breakup
Everyone has been left with a broken heart at least once after breaking up. It doesn't matter who initiated it - my heart hurts as if the breakup happened for the first time, I want to lie on the bed, look at the ceiling and shut myself off from public life, like Shia LaBeouf in the most difficult times. So what to do if you don't want to do anything, and how to survive the loss of a once loved one?
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How to stop being jealous of your ex
If you recently experienced a breakup, then it is quite understandable that at the sight of your ex with a new girlfriend, your heart aches painfully. But what if time has passed, the wounds have healed and you seem to be even friends, but as soon as someone appears on his horizon, that same unpleasant painful sensation returns again? Why can't we let the exes go for so long and what to do about it?
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