Text: Alisa Taezhnaya
Last week we remembered great movies about weddings - which means it's time to turn to the other side of the question. For many people, divorce is as important an event as the matrimonial promises that preceded it. And it doesn't have to be a big tragedy at all: sometimes the end is just a disguised beginning of something new. We have collected 10 films about the complexities of divorce and how to get through this difficult time.
Two decades before Sex and the City, Paul Mazursky makes a film about a woman and the possibilities of a metropolis - it all starts with divorce, pain and depression, behind which lies real liberation. Erika, played by the earthly, completely non-heroic Jill Kleiberg, will have to discover herself after many years of conventional monogamy, have sex for her pleasure when you are forty, and realize her own boundaries of comfort and joy.
“Unmarried Woman” is one of those films that are revealed many years later. Like the best quiet films of the 70s, it is made up of commonplaces that have not changed for decades, and does not neglect the importance of day-to-day decisions. A husband who falls in love with a department store consultant, girlfriends who are differently arranged and unsettled, and new men who, after seventeen years of marriage, seem to have arrived from another planet. An unmarried woman finds herself in New York by touch, stumbles and learns to understand her own freedom as an opportunity to have sex and relationships according to her rules and according to her life experience. After all, it is so different from the experience of a very young girl who graduated from college in the late 50s.
Difficult, emotional and very addictive "Divorce" is an example of modern Iranian cinema, in which the boundaries of the personal and the political are extremely blurred. The entire conflict of the film is built around the organization of society, where the family and what is happening in it are carefully entered into the state agenda and cannot exist separately. The minimum private choice has consequences for the immediate environment, can change the opinion of you and affect the long-term future.
Simin dreams of leaving Iran with her teenage daughter and husband, but Nader wants to stay with his father, who has Alzheimer's. There is no enmity or disrespect between the spouses, and it is the absence of hostility in their case that will be an obstacle to divorce. Neat to each other's feelings, they constantly find the strength to side with the other. Things get really complicated when Nader hires a religious and poor caregiver for his father, a pregnant woman and a young girl from the village who has a miscarriage. Divorce will be possible only if the husband and wife are finally smashed on opposite banks.
Husbands and wives
A couple of years before Husbands and Wives, Woody Allen shoots the little-known film Alice about the empowerment of a trophy wife and her awareness of her place in life. In Husbands and Wives, he recalls all the lessons of Bergman, primarily Scenes from Married Life, and tells the story of the separation of adults who have been together for many years and knowing each other's most vulnerable spots. There are, in fact, only four actors in the film - two married couples, one of whom is the real husband and wife of Woody Allen and Mia Farrow.
At a joint dinner, best friends inform them of the divorce, while looking calm and confident in their choice. Why do people part at maturity, and what makes them comfortable with this decision? While discussing this issue, the second couple practically locks themselves at home. Their own crisis in the relationship has not surfaced for years and now appears in all its ugliness.Heavy, flawless in the script and psychologically accurate film became the final point in the scandalous divorce of Allen and Farrow and, like any autobiographical work, disarms with courage and frank pronouncement of his mistakes.
Squid and whale
Simple thought - even the brightest minds and intellectuals with an impeccable reputation can be confused and do terrible things when they are touched to the quick. The Squid and the Whale is Noah Baumbach's autobiographical film that earned him the status of a promising director over a decade ago. The son of the Brooklyn intelligentsia, literary critics and important figures of the New York bohemia, he recalls the divorce of his own parents, hiding nothing from the camera: neither betrayal, nor manipulation, nor the monstrously widespread practice of parents to take revenge on each other with the help of their children.
The elder takes the side of his father, the younger - the side of his mother, both parents try to save face, but even dozens of novels read and written dissertations do not save them from stupid actions and wounded pride. The scene in the Natural History Museum and the beginning of the film with a couple playing tennis can move anyone who has survived a parental divorce and remembers the bitterness of their elders' decision.
A seemingly frivolous film with Jim Carrey about how professional deception gradually creeps into your personal life. The protagonist lives in court, day after day defending for the fee for the most part of the guilty and arranging performances for the jury. Manipulation of facts and lies are his bread, and clients demand all their free time. He has a little son growing up, on whose birthday he cannot come because of work, but comes up with another fable. Since children recognize lies much faster than adults and react to it more painfully, the son makes a wish: one day dad does not lie and does the right thing - and the next day Fletcher does not look like himself and his career goes downhill.
Kerry plays a very funny, but incredibly serious role of the dad for the weekend, who is so busy earning that he has beaten the banks and lost all priorities. "Liar" and "lawyer" in English sound very similar, and the film remains an accurate verdict not only for a successful society mired in lawsuits, but also for disappearing parents who, after a divorce, can give their children, at best, a formal gift and five minutes after the precious working day.
Eternal classics and a film with a huge heart, from which tears come every time. Dustin Hoffman and Meryl Streep play a couple of parents who adore their only son: during the divorce proceedings, it is the custody of him that will cause litigation and enmity between husband and wife. A father who constantly disappears from work and does not pay attention to his family will change when he gets his son at full disposal for several weeks. Their relationship will deepen and begin as if from a blank slate, but in the court practice of the late 70s, the child is most often left with his mother.
Kramer v. Kramer clearly and recognizably shows what is behind the divorce: disregard for the other, the devaluation of his experience and passion for his own plans. A blue-eyed child with the voice of a cartoon character and a charming manner of saying whatever he thinks will become for every parent that mirror that will show how little he really cares about his loved ones.
The last and wonderful role of James Gandolfini as a charming but awkward man with an excellent appetite and a simple attitude to life. At a party, he meets Eve: they are united by spontaneity, grown-up daughters, the habit of living alone and for their own pleasure, and another aspect unknown to both of them for the time being. It turns out by chance that Albert is the ex-husband of the main character's new girlfriend, a confident, charismatic and witty woman with whom I want to take an example.
Trying to figure out what pitfalls there are with the relationship with Albert, Eve begins to ask about the details of an unsuccessful marriage and looks at her fresh relationship through the eyes of a person for whom they remained a bad past. Enough Words is a critically-acclaimed recent American film that is very relevant about several human traits: living in the past, negative views of a loved one, the influence of the environment on our choices, and the desire for bad experiences to ruin the present moment.
Celeste and Jesse
Celeste & Jesse Forever, 2012
Passed by radars in Russia, a charming and sincere rom-com about divorce in his youth, which is worth watching for everyone on the verge of big changes. Rashida Jones and Andy Samberg play a wonderful couple who have been together for six years: the girl wants something more, she is much more successful, and the artist guy is used to being in her shadow on the sidelines. A believable story of how the love of youth leaves and leaves many questions for you as an adult: the divorce of close friends disappoints the other couple in this film, who announces their engagement.
For a long time, separated husband and wife spend together as best friends, which raises questions from everyone who surrounds them. But the time comes to move on, and even kind and likable heroes in this situation will be characterized by selfishness and a sense of awkwardness. Celeste and Jessie Forever is a guide to a healthy breakup without trying to sting another painfully. How to accept new partners, go on dates when you remain close people, and maintain an honest and good relationship as you move on - all the roles in this film are written so clearly that you can easily recognize yourself and your acquaintances. It's great that a divorce can end with its own happy ending.
Love does not love
A warm melodrama by a sensitive director Sarah Polly about how an unsuccessful marriage ends bloodlessly and what high hopes you want to pin on a new script. Michelle Williams plays here a girl tired of her husband (unlike a similar role in Valentine, she does not suffer from depression, but rather simply is discouraged) when a holiday literally comes to her street. Her new neighbor is a nice guy she met on the plane.
And wherever she goes, a new acquaintance is always nearby, which is why the question naturally arises in my head - what is happening in my own family? Do we still love each other? Or has a habit made us friends with a great history? Seth Rogen is adorable as a husband who looks like a teddy bear, not a trophy of life. Sarah Silverman plays a sister-in-law who asks the very questions that are scary to ask herself. "Loves / Dislikes" is a bright and sad film about the end of a relationship and how a new partner is not able to rid you of emptiness and melancholy.
Three colors: White
Part of the famous trilogy of the Polish-French director Kielowski - about the lost love and the sweetness of dramatic revenge. The Pole, obsessively falling in love with a blond angel (delightful Julie Delpy), loses a common language with her, and after a divorce turns into a vagabond in someone else's Paris. The reason for the divorce is "humiliating" - the sexual failure of the husband. A world in which the hero barely speaks French and does not fit into local life, is merciless towards him and does not offer any new opportunities. The only reality is a criminal career in his native Warsaw. Working for murky people with wolfish smiles, in whose world crime is possible without punishment, and pain without consequences.
The hero saves money and learns the language in order to take revenge on his wife once and for all. "White", unlike other parts of the trilogy, teeters on the brink of black comedy and cleverly deals with the theme of the humiliated and insulted, but leaves a disturbing sense of Dostoevism outside the tight framework of realism. Ghosts and impulses are at work here, and Kieесьlowski's divorce is a bad dream and a metaphor for irreparable injury, and not just a change in documents in the municipality.
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