Summer has passed, but the craving for travel continues unabated. We have already told you what to do for those who are going to travel alone or with friends, and now we share tips for those who want to relax with their parents. We will tell you how to make sure that everyone, without exception, likes the trip, regardless of age and difference in habits.
A joint trip always implies concessions and compromises. In order for it to leave only positive memories for all participants, approach it responsibly even at the planning stage. In the case of parents, this is especially important: even if you are used to choosing what to do, already on the spot, parents may not like this spontaneity. Before you travel, talk to your loved ones about what they expect from the vacation and how they would like to spend it. Discuss where you want to go, the transportation you will get there, and accommodation and meals. Having an honest and open conversation will help you avoid many problems in the future - if you make choices together, no one will feel left out.
If you are traveling with elderly parents and your options allow, it is worth considering more expensive and more comfortable travel options - for example, a cruise or an organized tour. In this case, you will hardly need to do planning. In addition, it will be much easier to deal with financial issues: very often cruises are arranged on an all-inclusive basis, so you won't have to figure out how much you will have to spend additionally, say, on food.
Consider the difference in habits
When planning a trip, it is very important to adequately assess the capabilities of the parents, their health and mobility. It is better to try to avoid night crossings and flights with transfers - something that does not scare you and seems natural can cause difficulties for older people. Consider whether your parents will find it convenient to move around the city you are traveling to. It may be fun to walk fifteen minutes up and down stairs to get to the beach, but if a parent has knee pain, it will seriously ruin their vacation. In addition, your parents are most likely accustomed to a certain level of travel comfort: they will probably prefer a comfortable hotel room overnight in a hostel, and they will want to get to the hotel not by a regular bus, but by a taxi or hotel transfer.
Very often, older people prefer to travel at a more measured pace, so do not try to fulfill the maximum tourist program in the shortest possible time. Instead of taking in the sights all day, don't be afraid to stop for a quiet lunch and conversation - traveling slowly and calmly is also great.
Agree who pays for what
Discussing financial issues is unpleasant, but necessary: it will help to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts. Decide who pays for the trip: do you cover all expenses, pay in half, or maybe your parents pay for everything? Find out how much and on what you are going to spend so that later there will be no unpleasant surprises. If a sandwich from the nearest supermarket is enough for you for lunch, it is not a fact that your parents will agree to this option.
Think about health and medical care
We don't think it's worth reminding you that you need to buy medical insurance before traveling - this is also important for traveling with your parents. When planning a trip, it is worth considering the health status of the parents: for example, if it is harmful for them to spend a lot of time in the sun, a beach vacation is most likely not the best choice.In addition, it is useful to translate in advance into the language of the country to which you are traveling, the diagnoses of the parents, their medical contraindications and the substances and products that cause them allergies. Otherwise, it will be much more difficult to explain to the pharmacist or doctor by gestures that your mother has high blood pressure.
Don't be afraid to split up
As with traveling with friends, traveling with your parents should not be afraid to split up sometimes, so that everyone can do what interests him. When planning a vacation, think not only about what it will be interesting for you to do with the whole family, but also about what each of you will like separately - so you can relax a little from each other and you will have something to discuss at dinner. True, you should not refuse all offers from your elders: maybe the place where you did not want to go at all will make the greatest impression on you during the whole trip.
If you and your parents are used to different daily routines, consider using your free time. For example, if they like to take a nap after lunch, you can go to the gym or walk around town during this time. If your parents are accustomed to waking up as early as possible, and you are not willing to sacrifice sleep while on vacation, they can have a cup of coffee at a nearby coffee shop before you all meet for breakfast.
Take care of your personal space
This point is closely related to the previous one: while traveling, even with the closest people it can become difficult from constant communication. It is very important to maintain personal space throughout the trip together. For example, if you have chosen a car for traveling with a large family, make sure that you are comfortable and free enough in it (there is nothing worse than spending a few hours on the road as the three of us in the back seat, squeezing into your mom and sister).
It is also worth considering booking private hotel rooms or renting an apartment with several rooms: if you get tired of each other, you can always be a little alone. Living alone can be helpful if you and your parents wake up and go to bed at different times. So you can calmly go about your business while others are asleep, and the screen of a laptop or smartphone glowing in the dark will not disturb anyone.
Try to communicate as equals
A huge plus of relaxing with your parents, when you are no longer a child, is that your relationship has entered a new stage, so that you can finally communicate on an equal footing and get to know each other from a new side. But there is also a complication here: in order for you to truly feel equal, your parents will have to stop patronizing you (although your mother will probably still insist that you wear a jacket on a cool evening), and you should not be down on them, even if you feel like you know more, and you feel like your parents' notions are hopelessly out of date.
Be calmer and have a sense of humor
When traveling with your parents, you should be patient and treat what is happening with humor: something will probably not go according to plan, somewhere you will have to make concessions, but something will not work out. Your parents may be used to vacationing at a different pace, and you will have to compromise if your parents' health and physical abilities prevent them from spending time differently. If something categorically does not suit you, it is better to honestly but accurately tell your elders about it than to accumulate grievances. Remember that there is always the risk of saying too much in an outburst of emotions - but no trip is worth it to spoil family relationships.
Take more pictures
The opportunity to take photos with your family is rare enough, and a joint vacation is a great chance to catch up. Back home, you can print photos or give your parents a special photobook - for sure, her parents will revise much more often than pictures on Facebook.
Just enjoy the ride
Parents travel with matured children less often than with small children - which is a pity. This is a great opportunity to look at each other in a new way: parents no longer need to build their vacation in accordance with the needs of the child, as you mature, you can finally look at them not as elders, but as equals, learn more about what they like, and find new joint hobbies. Enjoy your time together and remember that the difficulties and surprises you encounter on your trip will, over time, come across as shared adventures and stories that are pleasant to remember.