Bullying at school is common. The article describes how to deal with it, what effective methods can be used by teachers and parents, as well as about preventive work in an educational institution. The impotence of teachers in the face of bullying does not mean that violence in schools cannot be tackled. There are simple methods for overcoming bullying, but educators do not always consider it necessary to use them. Therefore, it is a difficult task for parents to motivate the school to provide children with physical and psychological safety within its walls.
School bullying has no chance of originating in classes where the teacher himself is the alpha. At the same time, it does not matter whether the teacher has a positive authority or tyrannizes children. In the first case, he can effectively suppress manifestations of violence, relying on the respect and love of the students. In the second, children are forced to unite to resist pressure, there is not enough energy for civil strife.
Tips for parents to help their child with bullying at school
With good, trusting relationships in the family, no tricks are required to detect school trouble. The child will tell about his problems himself. But all children have different characters, and there is an "age of silence" when the child prefers not to talk about his troubles.
In these cases, you will have to focus on indirect signs:
- External manifestations … Frequent bruises and abrasions, torn and dirty clothes, damaged books and notebooks. Reluctance to go to school, strange detour routes.
- Character changes … Irritability, irascibility, rudeness towards minors and parents.
- Loneliness … There are no friends among classmates, they are absent from friends on social networks. No one from the class comes to visit, does not enter on the way to school or back.
In this situation, psychological help from parents is very important. They should help the child cope with the problem in this way:
- Communication … First of all, you need to explain to the child that he is not to blame for what is happening to him. To call a phenomenon what it is is bullying. And promise to help cope. A son or daughter may be categorically against interference, children are afraid of increased pressure and bullying. But this moment will have to be overcome. The condition will help: either a conversation with a teacher, or another school.
- Support … It is important to listen to complaints and emotionally empathize with the child. One should not analyze or evaluate his stories, but simply be on his side. Even if there is an understanding that a son or daughter is different from others, they provoke aggression and do the wrong thing. Only aggression can provoke violence. The child did not beat anyone and did not call names, which means that no one has the right to offend him on the grounds that he is not like that.
- Conversation at school … To stop bullying and violence at school, call a spade a spade when talking to educators and ask them to do so. You can not use streamlined definitions like "the relationship has not developed", "no one is friends." We must say right away: this is bullying, humiliation, mockery. The parent's task is to find a person who will call what is happening by his own name to the rest. If the teacher talks about the child's shortcomings instead of admitting the bullying, then you need to go further. The head teacher, director, GORONO - such a person will definitely be found, and the school is unlikely to want to let the conflict out of its walls.
Left on his own in a bullying situation, the child may break down. This is manifested in the eerie scenes of his violence against himself. Children cut their veins, hurt themselves, and cut their hair. It is very important for parents not to waste time, not to lose the trust of the child, to express all-round support and assistance to him.
Bullying prevention at school
The psychological climate in the children's team is not an indicator of the success of an educational institution, but strongly influences its positive image among parents. Bullying is not prevented at school, so teachers and psychologists are forced to work with cases of violence that have already occurred. Here they pay more attention to academic performance, the results of tests and Olympiads.
The main preventive measure of bullying at school is the selection of a competent team of teachers. The teacher must not only be fluent in his subject, but also be able to work with the children's team. Child abuse cannot be dealt with without a reputable adult.
The best time to prevent violence is elementary school. The challenge is to teach children positive interaction. It is better if the roles of the alpha (leader) and outsiders are not rigidly fixed, and the hierarchy in the class is harmonious. This is possible if a small team lives not only by study, but also by some other business: contests, competitions, jointly organized leisure outside the city.
Jointly created group rules help. They can be written out on a separate poster and hung in the classroom. But they don't have to be formal. The group and the teacher constantly monitor their performance and discuss what else needs to be done to make the class more friendly and united.
Important! Preventing violence is easier than suppressing it. In addition, the consequence of conniving at the situation can be not a single broken life and spoiled reputation of the school. How to deal with bullying at school - watch the video:
The biggest mistake is to keep silent about cases of school violence and wait for the situation to resolve itself. Any child is defenseless against bullying and runs the risk of severe psychological injury with prolonged consequences for the rest of his life. Therefore, the greatest responsibility lies with the parents. If the situation cannot be resolved with the help of the proposed methods, it is necessary to take the child from the nightmare place and look for more acceptable conditions with a more qualified teaching staff.
