The ideal man in the eyes of a woman is an image created based on her beliefs and preferences. The article will debunk many stereotypes that have developed in relation to the stronger sex. The ideal man is a secret or overt dream of many women who want to see a reliable partner next to them. At the same time, ladies forget that there are no perfect people, because everyone is subject to some of their complexes and react differently to life situations. It is worth considering some of women's misconceptions about non-existent supermen that prevent them from appreciating more real-life contenders for attention.
Myth 1. The ideal man carries a woman in his arms all his life
The long candy-flower period is the perfect fairy tale for women who grew up on love affairs. Sultry beauties and courageous macho on the covers of such publications clouded their heads.
You can love forever, but do not go into ecstasy every time at the sight of the chosen one after a certain period of relationship. African passions usually boil at the moment of grinding in a couple and the beginning of a common living, when feelings are still fresh and not touched by everyday problems.
A smart woman should understand that obsession with each other wears off over time, and worship becomes boring. The lady of the heart has been won, so a new stage of the relationship begins, in which the man becomes a loyal friend and reliable support for the chosen one.
Even if the partner has ceased to be frankly luscious at the sight of his beloved, this does not mean at all that he has ceased to admire her. Many representatives of the stronger sex are arranged in such a way that they prefer actions to words in the later phases of relations with their soulmate.
Myth 2. The ideal man understands the chosen one at a glance
With this reasoning, one should immediately voice what no one owes to anyone in this life. We have our responsibilities, but they must have serious reasons and reasonable limits. Otherwise, everything will look like just a whim of an unbalanced woman in relation to her gentleman.
In some cases, we cannot understand the reason for our own actions, which occur spontaneously. Our thoughts are also very contradictory, so blaming your man for carelessness and indifference in such a situation will not be a wise act of an experienced lady. People whose hearts beat in unison very often have the same desires and aspirations. However, it would be frivolous to argue that this process should be carried out constantly.
Myth 3. The ideal man loves all the relatives of the chosen one
A man is obliged to respect the close environment of his beloved half, but it is simply impossible to love all his representatives. Very often, you can hear accusations from a woman that the chosen one does not have hot feelings for her mom and dad. At the same time, she herself is able to coldly relate to the parents of the betrothed, with whom she did not find a common language.
All people are different in nature, but no one has canceled tolerance. Therefore, a man must find a compromise on the claims brought against him by the other half. A woman, in turn, needs to understand that you cannot be forcibly sweet, and that you should not further stir up a conflict.
If the parties do not find a common language at all, then the right option would be to simply reduce the time spent together. A man is a person, just like a woman. He cannot be comfortable with absolutely everyone.
Myth 4. A responsible man is always next to his beloved
In this case, the command to the dog, which is trained and instructed on the right path, is immediately remembered. The belief in the correctness of the voiced myth is usually held by jealous and insecure women. An important role in the formed position can be played by parents who instill such absurdity in their daughter.
The established couple should go shoulder to shoulder in the direction of creating a strong and harmonious relationship. However, they can be lost if a woman tries to keep her beloved on a short leash.
Such ladies fall into a prolonged tantrum when their chosen one expresses a desire to attend a football match or go fishing. As a result, he will eventually go there anyway, but at home, after creating a new family, a wiser and more flexible wife will be waiting for him.
Myth 5. An ardent man always wants sex with a partner
The sounded side of the issue is very important for the stronger sex. They are especially acutely dependent on the quality of sexual life during the prime of their strength and vitality. However, some ladies cannot understand that their chosen one is not an insensitive robot, but a man of flesh and blood. He may simply get tired at work or get nervous because of some kind of trouble that has arisen.
In addition, a man can also be sick, which does not add to his desire to have sex with his beloved. At the same time, there are such hysterical persons who see a catch in everything that happens. If the chosen one does not want intimacy with obvious hints on their part, they arrange a grand scandal with the man's accusations of infidelity. This can end very badly, because the principle “it's better to be a sinner than to be reputed” will work.
There are also men who do not have the temperament that it is customary for them to hang. They do not want sex 2-5 times a week, calmly content with intimate relationships once or twice a month. During meetings, this is not striking, but when living together it becomes very noticeable.
Do not think that a man has fallen out of love or is looking for a partner on the side. It is worth having a heart-to-heart talk and finding out what is the reason for the change in behavior. Regularity is an individual concept in each pair. And either the woman herself needs to work, seducing the man, or accept his rules of intimate life.
Important! If a man had several "misfires" due to fatigue, or a woman has a nice habit of commanding in bed, regularly pointing out mistakes, there is practically no chance of a violent and regular sex life. The partner will do his best to avoid the annoying or uncomfortable situation. Such a relationship may end up finding a more understanding partner.
Myth 6. The ideal man decides everything on his own
The word "married" literally translates as to hide behind the reliable back of your chosen one. However, it does not mean at all that it is necessary to climb on his neck and dangle his legs. A man is obliged to be the head of the family, but, as you know, a wise person should also not stand aside when solving problems that have arisen.
With joint efforts, the couple will achieve much more than with the efforts of one member of the formed union. A woman can also become an initiator of action, because in some situations she will better understand the plan for overcoming the crisis.
Myth 7. A man without a flaw does not discuss personal with friends
Fairness is a fine quality as long as it doesn't sink to the level of gossip. Usually, the wondrous property of such a plan is attributed to women, because the qualities of an ideal man do not allow such a thing to happen. This is just public opinion, which does not always correspond to the truth.
If representatives of the stronger sex gather in a company, they will definitely discuss not only football and the quality of the purchased beer. Someone will complain about a grumpy wife, and someone will begin to violently criticize their boss. We are all living people, therefore we are inclined to analyze people who have done something bad to us.
Myth 8. Super-man doesn't look at other women
There are exceptions in this case, when the gaze of the chosen one is riveted exclusively to his chosen one. However, it is worth being honest about this matter, because this happens quite rarely.
A wise woman does not need to roll up scenes of jealousy if her beloved has appreciated the merits of another lady. Studying the menu does not mean trying it at all, so there should be no reason for jealousy with the announced fact.
However, in a situation where the chosen one compares another woman with his second half not in favor of the latter, it is worth thinking hard about the advisability of further relations with him.
Myth 9. An ideal man is always a breadwinner in the family
Life is an unpredictable thing, and it is almost impossible to completely plan it. A man should definitely be able to provide financially for his soul mate and his children. However, there are times when the head of the family has lost his job or is seriously ill.
You just need to wait out this moment, supporting your chosen one. At the same time, it is important that this does not become a habit with him, and he does not become a dependent.
Important! With strong support from a woman, as well as with her high income, some men give up their leadership positions and begin to enjoy the current situation or live for their own pleasure, without thinking about problems. If this situation suits both partners, then you should not worry.
Myth 10. The ideal man is always gallant and with good manners
There are fewer and fewer gentlemen, but this fact does not diminish decent men. The witty Faina Ranevskaya somehow subtly remarked that it is better to be a good person, “swearing obscenities,” than a quiet, well-mannered bastard.
The meaning of this phrase suggests that there is no need to reproach your man if he does not correspond to the canons of the English lord. Everyone has the right to choose a pair for himself, therefore, teaching the manners of his already appeared partner is a futile business.
Myth 11. The ideal man will be fed up with some fairy tales or borscht
Some women strongly believe that their intelligence will definitely attract the attention of the opposite sex. At the same time, they absolutely do not take care of themselves, considering their deep inner world to be a sufficient factor for worship and adoration on the part of a man.
Few would argue that no one likes stupid people when it comes to creating or maintaining a relationship. However, it is very important for a man how his potential or existing chosen one looks like. Consequently, the expression that a man loves exclusively with his ears, and let it lie to his heart through his stomach, is another myth for naive people.
Myth 12. The ideal man is the soul of any company
All people are different in nature, therefore, in any community, you can immediately identify a choleric or sanguine person. The melancholic can still express his opinion in the presence of other people, but the phlegmatic usually prefers to listen instead of engaging in heated debates.
Very often, opposites attract, so it would be unreasonable for a laughing woman and a lover of noisy companies to demand the same from her calmer partner.
Myth 13. A responsible man always wants to have his children
In this case, doubt immediately arises, because he may simply not be ready for this. This fact does not mean that the chosen one is a bad person. Not every woman immediately has a desire to become a mother, so it is not worth demanding what was voiced from a man.
Everything must happen in due time, so that people realize the fact that a small miracle must appear in their couple. There is nothing worse than an unwanted child who will feel it acutely afterwards. If the partner refuses to replenish the family for a long time, then he is most likely indifferent to this woman, and he does not make plans for the future with her.
Myth 14. Ideal men are great cooks
With this statement, it is impossible to completely refute the generally accepted fact. Many representatives of the stronger sex cook well and love this activity. After the voiced argument, I immediately recall an episode from the film "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears" that barbecue does not like women's hands.
However, not all men are capable of such feats, because they were initially not accustomed to cooking. Some husbands are willing to deliberately starve to death because they are not able to warm up the dinner that the spouse left in the refrigerator.
Myth 15. Men tastefully love a certain type of woman
Some people are amazed when their friend, a lover of blondes with lush breasts, falls in love with a brunette with more than modest forms.
No one will refute the fact that men initially evaluate a woman as a sexual object exclusively with their eyes. However, when choosing a partner, the type of attractiveness that a man has created for himself is not always important. Even an outwardly unattractive woman who knows how to teach herself and has frank sensuality can have charisma.
Myth 16. The ideal man is always laconic
It all depends on the temperament of the person, and not on his ability to remain silent about the topic and without it. Of course, a man should not spend hours washing the bones of those who displease him. However, sparkling humor and reasoning on interesting topics only paint any representative of the stronger sex.
Laconic does not always mean that a person is wise and tactful. In some cases, this indicates either the narrow outlook of the partner, or the unwillingness to communicate with his chosen one.
Myth 17. A man with experience is always an exemplary family man
Some shortsighted persons begin to look closely at the representatives of the opposite sex, whom it is difficult to call young men. At the same time, they do not understand the obvious fact that a man can have a burden of the past with a significant minus sign.
Tales of a former tyrant wife, a long search for an ideal among a crowd of imperfect people and an insidious fate, a villainess, in most cases turn out to be an elementary lie.
Myth 18: The ideal man has no skeletons in his closet
Each of us has the past, so it would be unreasonable not to imply it in the chosen one. If, after meeting, any unfavorable facts from the life of a man are revealed, then you should not panic. The best way to get rid of perceived disappointment is to remember your past while taking off your rose-colored glasses. After such introspection, many will no longer want to delve into someone else's underwear.
Myth 19. The ideal man is always in control of his emotions
Representatives of the stronger sex should restrain themselves even in cases where their lady is frankly hysterical. However, this does not mean at all that she can offend the weakest sides of the soul of her chosen one. Only the person who does not value his relationship is capable of playing on other people's emotions. In this case, a woman usually remains in splendid isolation, because her boyfriend begins to look for a more adequate partner.
Myth 20. The perfect man always talks frankly
“Truth and only truth” and “look me in the eyes” are phrases that can alienate even the most perfect man. Representatives of the stronger sex are not always ready to reveal all the secrets of their being, because everyone has the right to personal space.
Emotionally strangling a partner is possible, but this factor will not add happiness in a relationship. It will not work to fix the chosen one, and losing your beloved man in the race for the myth of the ideal can be elementary.
Myth 21. A responsible man forgets nothing
A woman who is hysterical because her husband has forgotten about the date of the first kiss looks somewhat ridiculous. She put on beautiful underwear, did not forget to buy candles and even cooked a romantic dinner. At the same time, the man had the audacity not only to come without flowers, but also to completely forget about this exciting date.
If you ignore the date of birth of the mother-in-law, the poor fellow with such a wife will surely die. It is worth remembering that men often simply do not remember about such events, and do not try to bring their soul mate to negative emotions.
Myth 22. A chosen one without a flaw never cunning
You should immediately forget about this once and for all, because we are all ready sometimes to twist our souls for a good cause. In some cases, it is better to just keep silent if something does not suit us.
A man can meaningfully mumble something unintelligible to the question of his beloved about a new dress if it does not suit her. If he talks frankly about this, then the emotionally hurt party does not need to become depressed after the collapse of the illusion about the ideal relationship.
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The myth of the ideal man is a fairy tale invented by women themselves. By such actions, the fair sex themselves deprive themselves of family happiness, because even a decent contender for the hand and heart of a lady may not meet their exaggerated requirements. It is necessary to clearly understand for yourself that the ideal (if it exists) is sometimes so boring that you will want to find happiness next to a common person in the future. In addition, the ideal man through the eyes of men is a person who loves his woman and is loved by her.
