Who are gigolos, why do they become, psychology and signs of such behavior, how gullible women get rid of the attention of male gigolo. Alphonse is a man who does not want to earn socially useful labor in production or in another field of activity. The raison d'être of such people is intimate relationships with single wealthy women who can provide them with a comfortable life.
Psychology of behavior of gigolos
Frenchman Alphonse Daudet (1840-1897) became famous as a writer. He did not make girls fall in love with him and did not "throw" them for money. Alphonse was a decent family man, and his name is the most common in Western Europe. Therefore, it is not at all surprising that Alexander Dumas (son) named his main character in the novel "Monsieur Alphonse" that way. It is about a scoundrel who has settled in well in life and led a completely carefree existence at the expense of girls of "facilitated" behavior. Since then, the name Alphonse has become a household name, so they began to call all men who were not averse to living for their own pleasure at the expense of their mistresses.
So where do the loving peasants come from, pursuing quite definite goals: to seduce the "beloved", to take possession of her savings, and then look for fistulas in the wind field!
The origins of this behavior of the gigolo must be sought in childhood. The character of a child is largely formed in the family. If the parents indulged the weaknesses of their child, did not force him to provide all possible help, they say, "there is enough prosperity at home, he will still work out," a spoiled child can grow up infantile, lazy and lacking in initiative. An adult goof, thinking about his mother, who always protected him from all childhood adversities, in relations with women will look for a mother who is similar to his. She must be successful so that you can comfortably hide behind her "mother's" back from everyday problems. And if a young man is, moreover, a handsome male, the fair sex is melting from him, why not turn the close female attention to his person to his advantage? So a completely harmless, cute boy in childhood turns with age into a carnivorous predator - a hunter for the female sex - gigolo. Such lady hunters are not uncommon. There is a special breed of men who are trying to arrange their lives in relationships with the female sex. The thoughts, feelings, aspirations of such heartthrobs are to find a gullible wealthy woman, seduce her and, if the case is favorable, live with her for the time being.
Work in production for gigolos is hard hard labor, they are not capable of it. It is much easier for them to make money with their appearance on intimacy. In addition, it is much safer than engaging in scams, for example, with the state. Here you can get a long time.
“There are enough gullible fools for my life,” muses the gigolo. And he goes all out in order to "twist" a large sum from another amorous simpleton. And when he gets his way, out of sight, out of mind!
A woman in love, when she realizes that she was deceived, is unlikely to go to the police. Not everyone will turn their souls out in public, tell that she madly loved and indulged a loafer. Many will simply sigh bitterly and experience what happened in their hearts.
The gigolos count on this and often turn out to be right, and therefore there is no translation for such a rotten family. Their tribe lives in large numbers and successfully, parasitizing on the feelings of women in love with them.
It's important to know! Alphonses are not born, men become like that because of the flaws of upbringing in childhood.
The main types of gigolos
Alphonses are selfish people, not burdened with conscience, making their "career" on love. It is easier to deceive a woman in love than to get money in another criminal way. Depending on personal qualities and pursued goals, gigolos can be divided into four types. Let's consider all the varieties in more detail.
Alphonse the Sloth
This is an unlucky person with little life demands. For some reason, he lost his job, tried to find it, but did not take root anywhere. Everyday, for example, physical labor, he is sick of. And so I want to live well, go to restaurants, spend time in the company of beautiful women. They show him signs of attention, but there is absolutely no money for them. And the decision is ripe to find happiness in a relationship with the lady who will support him. The judgment is psychologically verified, because there are many single, divorced, who want to improve their personal life. Some have low self-esteem, for the sake of love they are ready to make great sacrifices. Well, it doesn't work, but what a handsome man and how he loves! In order to keep such a lover near them, some women agree to keep him. And he doesn't need more. Successfully settled down, what more could you want? And for all the conversations about the work of the gigolo-lazy person, he will find an excuse, which, for example, brings health. Better to let her give him money to go to heal, and then we'll see.
And so it can go on indefinitely, until the woman becomes sober from her love and decides to expel her beloved alphonse.
Alphonse Lovelace
This is a seeker of bright love adventures, but women must pay for them. Even in the case when the relationship did not work out. Vysotsky sang ironically about this: “I called one to the cafe, alas, there is no novel. He ate and ran, as if to the toilet ….
The goal of the gigolo-womanizer is not only an easy affair, but, if possible, live a little with another passion, and then, having borrowed a large sum under a plausible pretext, disappear forever from her life.
The life of such a seducer goes from one love affair to the next. Women supply him with money, he is content with this and sees in this the meaning of his existence.
Alphonse-pro
This is the highest category of men of this kind. Their goal is to achieve a high standard of living. To have a big account in the bank and have your own business. A professional gigolo does not hide his goals, a woman may well know them.
This is a bright, handsome male who knows how to show himself in a decent society. His circle of friends is lonely successful business women. They are impressed by him, they are not averse to keeping such a young man at hand in order to appear with him at parties, in other public places.
Alphonse the Pro often has a university degree. He can know foreign languages, understands literature and will always support an intellectual conversation on any topic. Wealthy women value such gigolo lovers, are ready to spend money on them, and even often marry them.
Virtual gigolo
In the age of the Internet, there are men who "hang out" on dating sites, meet many women, sweetly describe their merits, bombard their darlings with poems, "stunning" clever sayings.
Such people often send other people's photos, trying to appear better than they really are. And if they send a personal one, then the old one, on which they look much younger than their age. They seem to be wealthy business people, but life has not worked out, they are looking for a close friend.
Lonely gullible women believe their revelations, invite them to visit. The virtual gigolo is embodied in the real one and comes to another city to his new passion. The meeting takes place in a confidential, intimate atmosphere with flowers and champagne.
In the morning, the "beloved" wakes up, and the friend is gone, money and some things disappeared along with him. It turned out that she met an Internet crook, whom dating sites help to find their victim. There is only one conclusion - women, do not trust your loving Internet acquaintances!
Note to women! Sensual love is blind, and therefore evil, you need to be able to consider the gigolo-goat next to you!
How to recognize a gigolo man
Men striving to live off the fair sex are distinguished by their originality. How gigolos behave in relationships with women, you can write a fascinating novel or shoot an equally interesting film.
In order to live carelessly at the expense of his mistress, a young man without a twinge of conscience will bend his soul, shamelessly lie, pretend to be gentle and affectionate, assure his friend of the fidelity and sincerity of his feelings. The signs of a gigolo, by which one can distinguish him from quite respectable men, do not seem difficult for a person who is not devoid of observation. These include:
- Elegant appearance … Not only is this, as a rule, a handsome man, he has a sleek appearance: he is always well-shaven, smells of expensive cologne, and a fashionable haircut. He dresses exquisitely, a fit, sporty type. Outwardly, he tries to be like a popular actor, for example, Hollywood, in which women see a sex symbol, the embodiment of all the best male qualities.
- Courteous behavior … He is always helpful, the smile does not leave his face (at least during the first period of acquaintance). If a woman smokes, she will always bring a lighter on time. He will be the first to jump out of the taxi and helpfully open the door, always fulfilling any women's whims without wrangling. In a word, a ladies' man.
- Friendliness … In communication, he is open, but does not like to talk about himself, in this case he admits a fog of mystery. He can only say that he has experienced a personal drama, that he has not believed in women for a long time, but this is the first time he has met such a beautiful and interesting woman. But he is annoyingly interested in his friend, asks her about her personal life, work. This should be alarming.
- Prefers to listen to his interlocutor … In the hope that he will extract the information that interests him from her. If she realizes that she is not rich in finances, under the pretext that an extremely important meeting is about to take place, she tries to leave unnoticed. And let her pay the price!
- Lack of money … Let's say he invited me to a cafe and, as if by chance, started a conversation about money. He philosophized that they are not the main thing in life. But now he just does not have them, and therefore could she pay off? No, next time he will definitely be solvent!
- Ability to seduce … He is literate, well-read, well versed in all matters, competently can talk on any topic. Gallant, helpful, understands women's problems, gives good advice. Persistent, but in moderation, women like such cuties. He walks home, and there he can ask for a cup of coffee. An innocent woman cannot refuse such a thing …
- Loves to press on pity … The romance had already started, and conversations began that he suddenly had troubles at work, he needed money. A friend promises a good place, but you have to wait. In the meantime, you need to get dressed to impress your new future boss. Could she lend him? A large amount is called. Here the woman should already think.
- Doesn't show his documents … For example, a friend asks to show her passport, they say, "We have known each other for a long time, but I really don't even know who you are." It is not at all for Alphonse to shine his data. Under any far-fetched pretext, he evades this.
- Doesn't like to be photographed … The gigolo's intentions are unclean, and the photo is material evidence, according to which it will be possible to find him if something happens. And if the "beloved" posts his photo on the Internet, God forbid, one of the "seduced and abandoned" old mistresses will recognize. In order not to shine, he begins to tell all sorts of fables, for example, he signed up not to divulge state secrets, for so many years he must not show his photos to anyone.
It's important to know! Recognizing gigolo does not seem difficult for a woman with adequate self-esteem and a sober view of relationships with the stronger sex.
Why women fall prey to gigolos
She is a smart, business woman, but she was unlucky with men. The experience of communicating with them is great, but unsuccessful, perhaps she was even married, but nothing sensible came of it. Such in the circle of her girlfriends annoyedly throws that "there is no love, all men are goats!"
However, deep down, she really hopes that she will still meet her chosen one. He is already on the way, he just stopped somewhere along the way. And the heart longs for love, because there is it in this world! What passionate men in endless TV series! And I want the same! The soul is wide open, ay-ooh, dear, where are you? I'm waiting for you! And now a miracle, he appeared!..
They say that love is evil, and you will love a goat! Does a gallant, courteous handsome man look like him? Dressed with a needle, smells of French perfume, gives roses. And how smart, how beautifully he talks about the stars. Ah, they are so far away, and he is near, and he hugs so passionately. There is so much of it, and the kisses are so hot!
And a lonely woman, longing for warmth and affection, thoughtlessly throws herself into the arms of a beautiful seducer …
When the sensual principle prevails in the relationship of lovers, the mind sleeps. A loving woman (often with low self-esteem) turns a blind eye to the shortcomings of her man. She is madly in love with him, besides, an excellent lover, she believes that this is enough to live happily. And if the cute turned out to be a rogue gigolo, the poor thing simply does not notice it (or does not want to believe it).
"Gentle and affectionate beast" takes advantage of the weakness of his girlfriend, swears in love to the grave, completely frowns on the brains of the heart. And when she begins to mumble that he has financial problems, she sincerely believes and pity him, without hesitation, gives him all her savings. And that with a touching farewell kiss disappears from her life forever. Finita la comedy!
It's important to know! Only blind, sensual female love gives rise to male gigolos!
How to get rid of the annoying gigolo
All women have heard of male crooks, but many believe that they will never fall into their snares. However, they are getting confused. And when this is understood, getting rid of the gigolo seems to be problematic for many. If this has already happened, you urgently need to break out of the hot embrace of the catcher of women's hearts. And the sooner this happens, the better for the moral and physical health of those lost in a relationship with gigolo. In order for the gigolo to leave the woman, simple but very effective measures will help. Let's tell you more about them:
- Need to learn about the work of a loved one … This is in the case when the relationship has not yet become so close that they already live together. Then it makes no sense for him to hide that he is unemployed. If the meetings are periodic and each ends for a woman with a tangible decrease in bills in the wallet, you should ask him about his occupation, why does it not bring him income? It's good to ask his boss's phone number. The advice is simple, but it will immediately become clear who the young man really is. Of course, you can send him farther, and this is the easiest way, but love is blind. In fact, everything turns out to be not so simple.
- Refuse to pay bills … At the first meeting, he behaved adequately, paid at the restaurant, and when the relationship became close, it suddenly turned out that she was paying for everything. This is already a reason to sort out the relationship, there should be no self-deception about your boyfriend. All his reservations are just a lie familiar to him.
- Lover is good, but here's the trouble, unemployed … In this case, persistently advise him to find a job. If he pulls with her, under any pretext refuses from her, then it's time for the ship to sail on a big voyage. Let him sail away from your shores as soon as possible.
- Make a cost estimate … Love is great, but you should calculate the cost of maintaining your loving macho. If they are much more than he spends on you, the conclusion is straightforward. This is a gigolo. Throw him in the neck or kick him in the ass!
- Doesn't introduce family and friends … Demand insistently that the acquaintance take place. If you are jittery, there is reason to think about why it behaves this way. This is insincerity in a relationship, nothing good will come of it. With a loving, but double-minded person, you should not continue the relationship. Most likely, this man wants to live at your expense.
- Introduced himself as a successful businessman … And when a relationship began, he suddenly began to complain that the business was not going, but the difficulties were temporary. It is only necessary to pour a significant amount into his enterprise. Never give him money. Better to say that the most difficult with finances. This will immediately turn him away from further relations, he will lag behind.
- Start a conversation about the child … If a man wants to create a strong family, he will agree to have children. When he is categorically against them, this is already a reason to be wary. It is possible that he is counting on a short, fleeting relationship in which there is no place for kids.
It's important to know! All advice is good, but the decision is up to the woman. If the sensual beginning outweighs the arguments of reason, you will have to endure your friend-gigolo and spend money. How to recognize a gigolo - look at the video:
A real man knows how to support his family, is a reliable helper and protector of his beloved. When he swears in love to the grave, and he himself, under various pretexts, lures money out of her, this is the gigolo. Beautiful words and hot intimacy should not muddy a woman's mind. If she is all in the power of her feelings, wishes and advice on how to recognize the gigolo will not help her. Then you have to come to terms with your unenviable fate and live under the heel of a crafty heartthrob.
