Many girls are wondering whether to agree to a love relationship with a beloved man before marriage? Or maybe it's not worth it, what if he dumps me altogether after I refuse. I took this topic for a reason. One of my friends "frowned" me with this question to such an extent that I wanted to speak out on this matter and give some weighty arguments. The fact is that she finally met her "only prince", with whom she fell head over heels in love. Everything seems banal, but she had never had anyone in terms of intimacy before, and she was brought up in the right family with normal values. She is 25. Nowadays you cannot find normal guys with fire in the daytime, but she, in general, is the kind of girl who does not like aimlessly "wandering" around nightclubs in search of adventure. Suddenly, a guy who almost immediately confessed his love to her was just accidentally caught and, after almost a couple of weeks, offers to marry. Everything would be fine, but he began to insist on intimacy, which alerted this girl. Now they write on the forums that, they say, in our 21st century they do not look at this and premarital love relationships will not affect further marital relations in any way. Have you ever wondered, dear girls, that this is a kind of roulette? Either he will “dabble and leave”, or all his life he will reproach that “it is not known who and how many of them you had before me”. I do not argue, there are cases when people meet for, say, 5 years, get married, give birth to children, and everything is fine with them in the future. But the facts often tell a different story.
As for that girl, she turned him down. Not because he adheres to the "old foundations", not because he "not enough" loves that guy to surrender to him, but simply because he respects himself and his future husband. That guy, of course, wanted only one thing - love, and, as he later admitted, to achieve his "goal" he introduced her to his parents and even promised to marry. What if it had gone differently? Is it possible, many girls will say, that premarital love relationships have such a detrimental effect on further relationships? So let's put all the facts "on the shelves."
What does the bed lead to before the wedding:
- Intimacy before marriage often leads to breakup. Research data tell us again and again that couples who have intercourse break up with an enviable frequency. The reason is simple - after satisfying a man's love needs, his craving for marriage becomes weaker and weaker. Once partners release the biological power of love that so attracts them, they are less willing to continue the logical conclusion of the relationship. Someone just once and cut off the desire to solve the riddle of another. And if a rupture happened here, it would be much more difficult than if everything happened along a different path.
- Premarital intimate relationships "interfere" with understanding the difference between love and falling in love. You can love, live and breathe with only one person, without receiving any physical pleasure. And you can continue to maintain love intimacy, just to keep your partner and not deprive yourself of this. Start communicating spiritually, feeling each other with your soul, not your body. Begin to be interested in something together. After all, the future spouse should be not only a lover, but also a friend. Ask yourself a question, will he stay with me when I get sick or find myself in a difficult life situation, or will be left without money, or will I start to endure his brain with my character?
- Premarital relationships can lead to unwanted pregnancies. It remains only to look at the statistics - 33% of girls who made a bed before marriage become pregnant. Unfortunately, the number of mothers raising children on their own is growing in the world, and not only because of premarital intimacy, including many who stayed with their children after marriage.
- Frequent change of love partners increases the risk of developing uterine cancer. This is due to antigens contained in semen, which, when they enter the uterus at a young age, or too often distort its development. There is a possibility of contracting sexually transmitted diseases, so it is important to know how to protect yourself with permissible sexual intercourse.
- A love life before marriage leads to disrespect from one partner to another. Since a man allows himself more liberties with a woman, then his intentions are not at all serious. Remember, girls, if your location is really dear to him, then the man with you will be extremely restrained, and it does not matter what "he needs" and he "cannot stand." If he loves, he can and will wait until the wedding. Self-respect comes first.
Appreciate yourself so that your beloved man would say what gold he got!
